Erectile function needs true love to flow between any two partner
Erectile function needs true love to flow between any two partner - any stress, anger at work or at home stops or reduces free flow of love and causes erectile dysfunction. hence the modern need of viagra in our society with so many conflicts and oppositions
your situation is typical
even worst in your case
if you AND your wife want to be free of relationship problems or tensions, then both have to be fully in peace with the rest of this creation.
the external conflict with a member of opposite sex is between you and your wife - hence restricting the flow of love between you two for one of the 2 below reasons:
now to another approach in future similar cases
"she asked me to be more careful about cleaning work"
means she thinks you could clean up - or clean up better or more often ...
your roper approach is to
absorb such critique - DEEP inside
think about all aspects of critique
anything more diplomatic is for the sole sake of ego only - diplomatic approaches serve only the ego and never serve most direct and most efficient progress and communications,
may be she is totally wrong
if she would have been TOTALLY wrong
the fact that you felt angry proves that she was to a HIGH degree RIGHT - whether YOU liked her direct approach or whether your ego would have preferred a "diplomatic" approach.
in situation of critiques you have a few choices as below mentioned
with other words there NEVER is a reason to get angry after being criticized for whatever reason. when critique justified - even only to smallest degree - then critique leads to YOUR betterment and spiritual progress.
if critique totally wrong - then no way to get touched by such wrong critique at all!!
now ab out cleaning work
cleaning IS important because - anything others
is their business !! no matter what!! THAT INCLUDES YOUR
as all above can be perceived consciously and / or subconsciously by ALL - even within miles or beyond. all have a right to live in a clean environment - clean also metaphysically in every aspect of life. hence all have a moral duty to be clean in their body, dress and living / working habits. ... from the body cleanliness it is very simply - all - girls and men should always be clean enough to make love or be loved in any way - including oral sex without having to wash, bath or take a shower before doing so! that is a simple but absolute measure about cleanliness. we all are made of love and made to love.
having difficulties with that above ??
if your children are unhappy when they leave home - its the business of all village or community.
if your wife is unhappy due to lack of happy sex - its the business of all creation
we all have to learn to behave in a way that ONLY is pleasant to ALL without ever causing any annoyance to anyone at all.
hence we all do have a moral obligation to be orderly, to leave all our garden and property as clean and healthy and natural as God did it for us.
most speech is about others or against others - hence small talk of no real value or just ego talk. hence silence is best. to talk just for the purpose of saying anything at all makes no sense at all.
that again puts up the need for a right environment. being surrounded by truly loving people. people whose first and only goal is God and Love ... will only love and never talk any ego talk. they may love without talk.
if truly love and are in a society or community of LOVING people - then there never is disagreement - hence NO need to talk. much or most of talking is done to verbalize disagreement or argue. discussions are war of ego.
in communities there are basically 2 groups of members
those who are at war with all planet and want to run away from getting in peace with all. those who escape their most important spiritual lessons.
those who are n peace with all - have learned all - lived many decades in many countries, many cities and many different cultures to get in peace with all by living WITH and amidst all until in peace with all and until all lessons learned and successfully applied in own life.
most of community members of alternate lifestyles including ALL those who once applied for a lifetime or LONG stay in any of my ashrams ALWAYS belonged to the FIRST a.m. group - they all wanted to escape hard work, serving all, being together with many different people, having to learn to live peacefully and lovingly with all ...
to be with those in community who live in communities for such reasons of escaping spiritual lessons and real / hard work and productivity may be far more tiring than living in a million people city amidst the first world.
it seems your present situation gives you exactly the right challenges to progress more intensely and faster, soon is honeymoon time ...
love and bliss
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